Why do I feel like such a bad mommy? I know I'm not!?
I’m a mom to an almost one year old and the past year has been less than easy. My husband’s job went under about 7 months ago, as with many people’s and our wages were cut in half. Most of our bills went unpaid for quite awhile. His job finally went back up and he was given a promotion and a raise. We will be financially secure in about a week. My baby has not missed out on much, but I still feel like a "par mother." Just because I wasn’t able to get her everything I wanted her to have. Like really expensive clothes and all the toys available and complete matching baby furniture sets. She had what she needed though. A large supply of toys. Cute clothes- never did I buy anything used. And above all attention from me. Her father was in her life for less than half of it because of his job. We are married though and about to move with him so she can see him more. I got pretty messed up hormonally because I got on birth control so for the past 5 or 6 months, I really have not been as good to her as I could’ve been. I don’t know what I need to do to fix that. Maybe antidepressants or different birth control. I just don’t feel like she gets as good as I want her to have, but for right now it’s the best she can get. Our house is really nice.but not as nice as i’d like. things just arent how i want them to be but it will be much better soon. So what can i do? no negativity please. i just need some support.
What are some good mom blogs or online communities?
I breastfed her and still am. She is on a very healthy diet and I have had 0 breaks since the day she was born. I literally have never left her side. I feel like I’m going crazy… but I love her so much.
and i do love my daughter more than anything. i know i have the love thing covered tyvm. she is the center of my world. but in a town where everyone has their act together more than we do and have all the nicest things, its hard to ignore that.
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As long as your baby girl knows you love her, she has what she needs as far as nutrients and care thats all that matters, she doesn’t know or care what brand clothes she wears or what kind of house she lives in, as long as you help build her confidence and developmental goals by just playing with her, holding her, caring for her thats what she needs. I know your anguish because my hubby quit his job 2 weeks before my 14 month old was born, so I have had to work full time and it breaks my heart everyday. But love and care is what she needs most.
wow thats why you think your a bad mom cause your kid couldn’t get expensive things
go to the library and get some self help books. you’re holding material things in too high of a regard. babys dont need really expensive clothes – that’s for you – trying to compensate for low self esteem or something. fancy clothes, furniture, houses, toys – that stuff doesn’t matter. give your child love and guidance and self respect and listen to them. that’s what they need.
i don’t think your issues have anything to do with your daughter – i think its problems you have internally and you need to re-teach yourself how to think about some things. if you have insurance, go see a psychologist. good luck.
we don;t care, i hope you get them toking away,
it sounds like you think superficial things are more important to a baby than the love of her parent.
Maybe you are not worried about the baby but about yourself. By buying all that expansive stuff you wanted to show off to other adults that you were the best. You didn’t really buy it for the child but more for yourself.
Maybe you are right you aren’t such a good mom if that’s the case.
Your child will be spoiled rotten but unhappy because you will only give her things to make yourself look good and after a while she will understand. That’s not love.
A child will not remember that things didn’t match when they were infants. They will remember being LOVED!
Don’t be pulled into the hype that matching furniture sets and fancy toys make children happy. Time with you and being outside are more important to kids than anything made in a China sweatshop.