How can I get my husbands Brother to Give back instead of always being the one to recieve?
Actually it’s not my husbands brother, my husband is an only child.
But it’s my husbands best friend, they were raised like brothers because lived next door growing up and did everything together…His BF was also the Best man in our wedding last year…
Well anyways…My Husbands BF named Jeremy and His wife are always asking us for favors but can never help us out when we need it.
My husband is a Master Auto Technician and Today Jeremy’s wifes car broke down. His wife called me and asked if my husband could come out and help her..And my husband did..
Actually every time Jeremy or his wife have car trouble they call my husband and 99 percent of the time it’s like "I will be right there"..Mind you we live 45 minutes away.
However here I am 8 months pregnant and I asked Jeremy if he could help me set up Baby Furniture because my husband worked late..Jeremy said he "Had Plans". I have also asked his wife if she would help me with baby things and she always says she "Has plans"..
My husband always telle me "you know he’s like family"…Well if he was like family, why can’t he help us out..
I also when they need help moving into there new place, help with the wedding etc I was there to help them.
I don’t expect anything in return but I also don’t expect what I am getting. It’s been going on for 4 years of "I have plans". All I asked was to help set up a crib which takes an hour tops. She needed a new engine put in and brakes replaced with took 2 days.
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You are right. Your husband is being too easy-going, and one day he’s going to break, like you have.
If it’s your husband who is always doing the favours for Jeremy and his wife, then I’m sorry to say it’s between your husband and Jeremy. But if a lot of these favours are affecting you (taking time away from your time together, costing both of you money, etc.) then you have a right to be annoyed.
If it happens a couple more times, say it exactly like they do – "I have plans". Something tells me they’ll get the hint, and if they don’t, they’re just rude. If need be, just be flat out direct – "it hurts that we’re always so eager to help you, but when we need something from you, you always seem to have an excuse not to".
An adult and fair person will take these hurt feelings seiously.
He can’t help out because when you ask he tells you he "has plans". Your husband is a pure giver….which means he will do nice things for people without looking for something in return. Unlike you, where you expect if you do something for someone they should return the favor. Your husband will be rewarded by the universe for his pure and beautiful giving nature…..He is a gentlemen. You…not sure about you…
maybe they really did have plans.. like having a 3 some with your husband, his ‘bf’ and the wife.
Sounds like you need to sit your husband down and have the talk with him other then the friends. They dont sound much like friends..but more like users. Your husband sounds like a sucker…who will go out of his way for people that dont really care that much about him.
Unfortunately I wouldn’t even bother with them or ever ask for their help..cause as you can see they have "better" things to do. Your husband needs to get a clue!
I have to agree with Jordan actually. At least in that vein. Your husband is just trying to be a nice guy and isn’t looking to be paid back….doesn’t ‘keep score’, whereas you apparently do.
A car problem is kind of like an emergency. You pretty much have to go quickly for that if you are willing to do it at all.
If your husband needs them some time and they turn him down, then he will do the right thing and back off helping them.
Maybe they don’t help you because you don’t offer to help them?
If they are just selfish, then be satisfied that YOU know this, and let your husband deal with it in his own way.