accepting expensive baby gifts?
i just told my mother that she is going to be a grandmother for the first time.
she gave me a four piece baby cutlery gift. she said she’d like it if baby used this cutlery as everyday pieces as children are only young once. the cutlery is adorable.
when i got home and showed my husband we found the price tag was still attached, it was 0 (Australian).
WHOA.
our cutlery set of over 60pieces cost us under just to put it in perspective.
how do we handle this sort of expense? should we let mum spend her money the way she likes on her grandchild? or should we ask mum if she would like to spend money on her grandchild to consider helping us out with putting money towards the baby furniture?
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If you tell her to help you with the baby furniture, she’ll end up spending double, in furniture and more cutlery. Let her be. Gifts are gifts, not obligations, and if she feels like doing so, don’t trash it for her. It’s her first grandchild, and it is her rightful duty to spoil your child. Enjoy the expensive cutlery. It’s not for you anyways
Grandmothers love to give the grandchildren things they couldn’t afford to give their own kids. But a cutlery set sounds really unnecessary. Tell her that you REALLY appreciate the gift and will use it as she requested, but ask her nicely in the future if she wishes to buy the baby lavish gifts could they please be of a practical nature instead of extravagant. I mean, does a baby really need to use knives?
Well, If thats the way your mom wants to spend her money, i suppose the thing to do is let her do as she pleases, and thank her graciously for it.
It sounds like she wants to be generous within her means, and i was asked to help contribute to a furniture fund, and had the money to do so i would be pleased to know that my money was going to something my children love and chose, and grandchildren could really get alot of years of use out of.
Is she begins to buy you things you don’t forsee using, i would gently suggest that next time she wants to buy something for the baby, that she invest that money in a education, or travel fund that the child can use as they grow into adulthood.
Speak to your mum about it.
Tell her you appreciate such a lovely gift but you are worried she spent so much on something that the child may not get much use of as it grows up. Tell her that maybe the money would be more useful if spent on something like supplies for the baby, but in a bank account to save for the baby’s future or money going towards a new room for the baby if you need it.
But in the end its her choice if she wants to give the baby an expensive gift or not – tell her that its totally her choice at the end of the day.
I hope it all turns out well and the 9 months or so are great for you and you family!
Good luck!
Accept the gift!! Grandma’s always spoil the children this way!!! My parents just bought my daughter a 1,500.00 bedroom set and she is 4yrs. Every birthday they buy her an expensive gift and if that’s not enough they compete against the other grandparents. Its crazy my mom always get something bigger & better than my in laws. She says its her time to show her grand daughter what "whela" can do!!
Tel her thank you first off. But terlling her to spend her money in a certain fashion seems to put a hult to the spending trust me i know
I took my mom shopping with me and I would find a item i would love I never would look at the price, then i would be mom what do you think and she would tell me yes or no I would say ok i will keep it in mind and a couple days later i would talk her a say i really liked that i better start saving for it
It was better then telling her were to spend her money, since at the beginning of my pregnancy she had bought a gold baby spoon and i couldnt keep accepting gifts like that
you know what, maybe your grandmother did the same thing for you…your mother is happy, and so just let her be a grandmother and stop obsessing over the price of things. go to you mom and say, " hey mom you think you can help chip in for a crib or something" or do what i did when my daughter was born, i told every one on her birthdays and christmas NO TOYS just get her clothes that will save me money and its been 6 years and worked out, but my parents still buy her expensive toys and what not, but they are her grandparents and they never had the money to spoil me like that while i was growing up cause we were always struggling and its nice to see them feeling happy that they have the money to do that
so please don’t be harsh on your mom, she is just really happy
Lol. My daughter’s great-grandmother bought her a $400 (American) teddy bear. We are afraid to even let her touch it!
How to handle it really depends on your relationship with your mother. On the one hand I think she should be able to spend on her granddaughter as she chooses. On the other, if you don’t watch out you are going to end up with a house full of impractical junk.
Let her spend it how she wants. It’s greedy to ask her to spend it on a particular thing.
She was a mom, she may be trying to buy you the fancy stuff she knows you can’t justify buying yourself. Just be happy she cares and wants to spend money on her grandchild. And keep in mind she may have gotten a really good discount on it.
Just be very thankful (write her a thank you note).
Make sure you let her know how much you appriciate the gift and use it how she wants you too. Don’t say anything regarding the price or she might think you were actually looking for it.